by Luminita D. Saviuc: A lot of people take things personally…
And because they get so caught up in this unhealthy game over who is right and who is wrong, they fail to realize that other people’s opinions of them don’t matter at all.
Today I would like to share with you 10 awesome reasons why you should no longer take things personally…
so that you can live your life in peace and harmony and focus on what truly matters.
10 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD NO LONGER TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY
1. It has nothing to do with you
Whether people love you or hate you, it has absolutely nothing to do with you. It’s all about them. The things they see in you are mirroring back at them what’s already within them. Don’t take it personally.
2. None of it has any real value
You might think that other people’s opinions of you have the power to add or take value from you and your life. But that’s not true at all. You are who you are and nothing others say or do to you can make become a more valuable, or less valuable human being. None of it has any real value.
3. Truth needs no defending
Who you truly are underneath it all needs no defending. And if you ever catch yourself trying to defend yourself, know that what you are defending is just an illusion. Truth needs no defending. Let it go. Don’t take it personally.
4. It’s all just a distraction
The things you take personally are all meant to distract you from what truly matters in life and slow down your spiritual progress. It’s all just a distraction.
5.When you stand with your two feet on the ground, you will always keep your balance
In the Tao Te Ching, more than 2500 years ago, Lao Tzu spoke about this in a way that only he knew how:
“Whether you go up the ladder or down it, your position is shaky. When you stand with your two feet on the ground, you will always keep your balance.” ~ Lao Tzu
6. It’s not worth it
No matter how many silly things people will say to you and about you, and no matter how hard they will try to convince you that their opinion of you has any real value, you should never try to defend what is being “attacked”. Nor should you try to argue with them. Nonsense is just nonsense and it should be treated as such. Don’t waste your time and energy on it.
7. People will try to attack what they don’t understand
Whenever someone tries to judge or criticize you, instead of taking things personally, remember this awesome quote from Star Trek:
“Small words from a small being, trying to attack what it doesn’t understand.” ~ Borg Queen
8. Hurt people hurt people
Hurt people hurt people. And if somebody tries to make you feel anything other than loved, it’s only because they are hurting inside. Just look how beautifully Don Miguel Ruiz spoke about this in his book, The Four Agreements:
“But it is not what I am saying that is hurting you; it is that you have wounds that I touch by what I have said. You are hurting yourself. There is no way I can take this personally.” ~ Miguel Ruiz
Be wise enough not to judge, attack or criticize those who judge or criticize you. Instead, send them your peace and a silent blessing. Always remember that what you put out there, will come back to you. Put only good.
10. If others don’t value you is only because they don’t value themselves
We are all sacred beings whose real value can’t be counted. We were all born this way – priceless. And if other people don’t recognize your true value, that’s only because they don’t recognize their own. Don’t take it personally.